4 daily habits of exceptionally fulfilled people

November 20, 2017

By Julian Hayes II via flipboard.com   Article

1. ONLY BE IN COMPETITION WITH YOURSELF.

As Eleanor Roosevelt states, ‘No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.’ Mentally tough individuals who are living a fulfilling life don’t let themselves get caught up in the everyday rat race and comparison to others around them.

They understand that when you compare yourself and your journey to others, you’re devaluing your own self-worth. Viewing someone else’s life and journey from the outside is only witnessing their highlight reel.

Comparing is dangerous because you’re only seeing their curated product and who knows what their behind the scenes looks like. The only metric that is important is your own personal one. Did you at least get one percent better from the previous day?

If so, then that’s all that matters, don’t sweat anything else.

2. REMOVE ALL TOXIC PEOPLE AND ENVIRONMENTS.

You are who you surround yourself with. Toxic people and environments can become mosquito-like and suck all the life and energy out of you.

You’ll notice that people who are more fulfilled than the average person operates with a greater level of energy. That’s because they intensely guard their personal energy.

You only get one at-bat at this thing called life. Don’t let it go to waste on people who don’t lift you higher.

3. COMMIT TO A GROWTH MINDSET.

Your mind is powerful. Your thoughts and beliefs can morph into your worst enemy or greatest asset. Those who are living a more fulfilled life have a growth mindset where they see the world in abundance and believe there is enough for everyone.

A growth mindset realizes that skill and intelligence can be developed and expanded upon through consistent effort. With a growth mindset, you see yourself as the captain of your personal and professional life trajectory. Only you can stop yourself from achieving the goals that you want.

4. DON’T TRY TO CONTROL EVERYTHING.

We often get ourselves into trouble because we try to control the ‘uncontrollable’ (i.e. our external environment and circumstances). Mentally tough and fulfilled individuals understand that the only thing they can control is their response and perspective to specific situations.

Anything else is out of their hand. Embrace relinquishing control and notice how your stress levels go down because you were focusing on things that you couldn’t control.”

 


Lost our mojo

November 13, 2017

Reporting by Norihiko Shirouzu via autoblog.com   Article

How Honda lost its mojo — and is on a mission to get it back

“In interviews, more than 20 current and former Honda executives and engineers at the company’s facilities in Japan, China and the United States recounted the missteps that they say contributed to Honda’s decline as an innovator. They also revealed new details of the firm’s efforts to rediscover its creative spark.

They said Honda had become trapped by Japan’s ‘monozukuri’ (literally, ‘making things’) approach to manufacturing. This culture of incremental improvement and production-line efficiency, called ‘kaizen,’ served the company well in the decades after World War II, they said, but today’s challenges — electrification, computerization, self-driving cars — demand a more nimble and flexible approach.

Most important, they said, over the past two decades company executives in Tokyo were given too much control over research and development. In their view, this led to shareholder value being prioritized over innovation. There was a reluctance to draw on talent from outside Japan. In its quest to deliver for shareholders, Honda sought to maximize volume and profit and match the product range of its main Japanese rival, Toyota.

‘The upshot was, as we obsessed about Toyota and beating it in the marketplace, we started to look like Toyota. We started to forget why we existed as a company to begin with,’ Honda R&D President and CEO Yoshiyuki Matsumoto told Reuters.

Honda’s revenues have grown strongly since 2000, and its operating margin stood at 6.0 percent in the financial year ended March 31, 2017, compared with 7.2 percent at Toyota. But Honda’s cars have slipped down quality rankings, from seventh in market research firm J.D. Power’s initial quality study in 2000 to 20th in 2017. …

Japan’s manufacturing sector, especially the auto industry, prospered in the post-war era by harnessing monozukuri principles of steady design improvement and lean manufacturing that encapsulate the Japanese reverence for craftsmanship in manufacturing. The aim was to produce vehicles with one-third of the defects of other mass-produced cars using half the factory space, half the capital, and half the engineering time. … Today the industry is facing new challenges, however. Artificial intelligence and self-driving cars are forcing carmakers to rethink the way they design and produce vehicles.”


Are you a trusted leader?

November 13, 2017

By Steve Keating via stevekeating.me   Article

“Only 45% of 400 managers in a Carnegie-Mellon survey believed their top management was always truthful; a third distrusted their immediate bosses. Current research says that 85% of employees across all businesses and industries are actually demotivated by their ‘leader.’

What does that survey have to do with you?  Maybe nothing, but maybe, just maybe, you could consider it a wake-up call. A call telling you that you must be especially diligent in making certain that you live by the high standards that you expect from those who you hope to lead. Perhaps the survey results can serve to remind you that you have to work every day to earn the trust and respect of your people. You should never lose awareness that your people are always watching to see if your words match your actions.

… ask yourself these questions: Are you the same person no matter who you are with? Do you make decisions that are best for others when another choice would benefit you? Are you quick to recognize others for their efforts and contributions to your success? (In writing?) …

Here is one reason integrity is so important for a leader: Integrity has high influence value, if you have the ability to influence others than your ability to lead is unlimited. Integrity helps a leader be credible, not just clever. Effective leadership is not based on being clever; it is based on being consistent. No one can fool all of the people of all of the time, insincerity can’t be covered up. Leaders who are sincere don’t have to advertise the fact.

Integrity is a hard-won achievement, it takes a long time to establish it with your team and you never fully complete the task. Your team expects four things from you on a consistent basis: honesty, competence, vision and inspiration. Those areas all impact your integrity.”


Mansplaining

November 13, 2017

By Emily Price via lifehacker.com  Article

How to Deal With Mansplaining at Work

“The term mansplaining is relatively new, but the concept is an old one. If you’re not familiar, the term refers to when someone (most often a man, thus mansplain) explains something to someone (typically a female) in a condescending or patronizing way. If you’re a woman, then chances are this happens to you on a weekly if not daily basis. …

About 10 years ago, I worked as a barista part time as an excuse to get out of the house and to satisfy my coffee addiction. I was a pretty successful writer already at the time, but I loved the human interaction on a regular basis (working from home can get lonely!). One day, a regular customer came in and started to explain a new web app to me. He had gotten an important detail wrong, and when I politely corrected him explained to me in a condescending way that I was wrong because he had read an article in PC Magazine about it and pleasantly suggested I should ‘See if my dad had a copy’ because I ‘seemed interested in tech.’ I had written the article. …

Confronting mansplaining can be hard. Debra Bednar-Clark, former Head of Business Strategy and Growth at Facebook ’s Creative Shop, and now founder of the career and style coaching form DB+co recently spoke to Inc. about mansplaining in the office, and how women should deal with it. …

Bednar-Clark suggests confronting mansplaining behavior when it happens, even if it’s happening in a large group. Rather than be combative, she says to maintain a professional tone and approach the problem head on. Firmly explain what the issue is, and offer a solution on how to solve it.

‘Being kind, approachable and strong are not mutually exclusive,’ she says. … She says that explaining firmly why you’re upset with the offending person will often correct the issue for good, and when it’s done in a group setting send a message to everyone else in the room that the behavior is unacceptable as well.

Doing it right then, rather than in an email or conversation later, helps that person realize exactly what they did wrong. In some cases, the mansplainer might not truly realize they’re doing it.

It can also help to think about what might be causing the mansplaining behavior. In many cases, the men that are doing the mansplaining are doing so not because they think someone needs to be talked down to, but because they themselves are insecure.”

 


With-ness

November 13, 2017

By Seth Godin via sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/   Article

Toward cooperation

“It’s tempting to be oppositional. To see the different as the other. To dominate, to win, to move up as others move down (because in the zero sum game that we’ve built around us, that’s the only way).

But a networked world, one based on connection—one held together by the sheerest gossamer—can’t tolerate the tension and pain that bullying and dominance require.

An alternative is with-ness.

The practice of talking so we can be heard, and listening so we can understand.

We’re weaving something every single day, but entropy and fear leads to a raveling that can undo all of it.”


Your lack of motivation does not matter

November 6, 2017

By Peter Economy via inc.com   Article

This Navy SEAL Says Your Lack of Motivation Does Not Matter (but This 1 Thing Does Big Time)

“There is something much bigger at play when it comes to your success than merely being motivated. …

Having spent 20 years in the U.S. Navy–with time spent commanding Task Unit Bruiser at SEAL Team 3–[Jocko] Willink … is the recipient of the black belt in Brazilian jiu-jitsu and has been known to tap out 20 Navy SEALs per workout. On top of all that, Willink is also a business founder and bestselling author of the book, Discipline Equals Freedom: Field Manual. …

No doubt, with all of this expertise in business, sport, and combat, it would be natural to assume that Willink must be incredibly motivated, right? Actually, he would beg to differ, as he says, ‘Don’t count on motivation; count on discipline.’

Those of us who want to start new projects, wake up early to go to the gym, or even do simple things like schedule a dentist appointment find it difficult to complete, much less start, these tasks. Our reasoning? We don’t feel like doing the work, and do not have the motivation we think is needed. Luckily, motivation may not be necessary at all, and can be highly overrated. In fact, look to the idea of obtaining self-discipline instead.

In an interview with Ferriss, Willink addresses what extreme discipline means for those involved in creative pursuits specifically:

‘I would venture to guess that the biggest reason creative types don’t produce isn’t because they don’t have vision…or talent…in most cases, it’s a lack of discipline.’

No, that does not mean you have to wake up at 4 a.m. to hone your craft. However, according to Willink, this still does not mean we get to oversleep–we must prioritize practicing, as we live in a world where cultivated discipline lasts longer than fickle motivation.

‘The more you practice,’ he says, ‘the better you get, the more freedom you have to create.’ Discipline in any area of your life will increase your skills, productivity, and, he reveals, will ‘set you free.’ Don’t feel like exercising? Don’t feel like starting that business proposal? Trust an expert U.S. Navy SEAL, and remember that your lack of motivation truly does not matter.”


Tough and kind

November 6, 2017

By Dan Rockwell via leadershipfreak.blog   Article

How To Be Tough When You Prefer Being Kind

“Stress increases when leaders can’t bring kind and tough together. Kind without tough makes you a pushover. Tough without kind makes you a jerk. Accountability is candy to some leaders. It’s easy for them to say, ‘No.’ They have no problem holding people’s feet to the fire. But you aren’t one of them.

Extremes:

Some leaders choose kindness and neglect toughness. They bring coffee for the staff. They exchange pleasantries and tell jokes. They’re always affirming. But they avoid tough situations. They can’t say, ‘No.’ Some leaders choose toughness and neglect kindness. They avoid social pleasantries. They stand aloof because it’s easy, safe, and less confusing.

Lead with kindness:

Let kindness be your first step toward people. Don’t begin with toughness. Be pleasant, upbeat, curious, and affirming. But what if some take advantage of kindness? They ask for special exemptions. Worse yet, they grant themselves special privileges. What if the tough side of leadership is hard for you?

How to say no when you prefer saying yes:

You don’t have to choose between kind or tough. Don’t be Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.

When it’s time to be tough, do it with kindness.

Declare your intentions and say no with kindness.

  1. I want to say yes, but this time I have to say no.
  2. I work to be fair with everyone. I’d love to make an exception, but I can’t.
  3. I wish I could say say yes, but I have to say no.
  4. It’s hard for me to say no, but this time I have to.

Elevate your leadership by bringing kindness and toughness together.”