By Travis Bradberry via entrepreneur.com Article
How to Immediately Connect With Anyone
People naturally (and unconsciously) mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to. If you want people to like you, smile at them during a conversation and they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good about you as a result.
Use their name.
Your name is an essential part of your identity, and it feels terrific when people use it. You shouldn’t use someone’s name only when you greet them. Research shows that people feel validated when the person they’re speaking with refers to them by name during a conversation. …
Follow the platinum rule.
… The platinum rule is … to treat people the way they want to be treated. …
Don’t make it a contest.
We’ve all seen the stereotypical sit-com scene where two guys in a bar spend the night trying to one-up each other. The same thing happens when you meet someone new…. Doing so may stroke your ego, but it doesn’t help you to connect with them. …
Turn off your inner voice.
One giant thing that keeps us from connecting with other people is that we don’t really listen. … We’re so focused on what we’re going to say next ….
You must turn off this inner voice if you want to connect deeply with people. So what if you forget what you were going to say … If your real goal is to connect with a person, you have to shut off your own soundtrack long enough to focus on what they’re telling you.”