The One Word Men Never See In Their Performance Reviews
“‘Jessica is really talented, but I wish she’d be less abrasive. She comes on too strong.’ Her male counterpart? ‘Steve is an easy case, smart and great to work with. He needs to learn to be a little more patient, but who doesn’t?’ These statements, uttered by an engineering manager who was preparing performance reviews ….
In a report for Fortune.com, she [Kieran Snyder] collected 248 performance reviews from 28 companies from large technology corporations to small startups. The reviews came from 180 male and female managers.
Not only did women receive more criticism in their performance reviews, it was less constructive and more personal. … such as watch your tone’ and ‘stop being so judgmental.’ For example:
‘You can come across as abrasive sometimes. I know you don’t mean to, but you need to pay attention to your tone.’
Abrasive alone was used 17 times to describe 13 different women, but the word never appeared in men’s reviews. In fact, this type of character critique that was absent from men’s reviews showed up in 71 of the 94 critical reviews received by women.”