Integrity, balance and self-deception
“When we experience harmony and balance in our lives, it’s most often because there is a conscious alignment between what we think, feel, say and do. We are in integrity. Our life choices and decisions – be they at work or at home – have a deeply-felt sense of being honest and sincere.
When we lack congruity between what we think, feel, say and do, often we experience an emotional or physiological sense of imbalance. We feel disconnected, out of equilibrium. How could we not? Think of an equilateral triangle standing on just one of its points – ungrounded.
The ground of our being, the foundation of who and how we are is built on the degree of honesty in our thoughts, feelings, speech and actions. This foundation can begin to deteriorate when integrity – the stuff of our foundation – contains too much water, or too little sand or unwanted impurities. The result is that we feel confused, unsure, powerless – like a fake or phony.
The way we honor our integrity is to first be clear and conscious of the values that matter most – our core values – those that reside in our heart. Secondly, we are in integrity when we live these values – holding them, speaking them and being them.”
“The first and worst of all frauds is to cheat one’s self.” [Phillip James Bailey]