Personality “thorns”

February 24, 2014

By Tom Brunner via   Article

10 Character Flaws That Can Derail Even Good People

“… personality thorns are particularly likely to derail someone. … 10 derailers that seem to not just irritate others, but stifle the personal and professional maturity process. …:

Enviousness You are not truly happy for others success, and you work too hard to “keep up” with others on a material level.

Defensiveness Defensiveness toward being corrected or criticized. Generally hypersensitive people don’t mature, they just grow old.

Aloofness If you come off as cold/distant, you will not be trusted or influential.

Volatility Overly emotional people are attention hogs, and focus on themselves, not on the reality around them.

Eccentricity Eccentrics are funny in the moment, but when building a team may lack the ability tone down their eccentricity to build rapport. …

Entitlement You believe you deserve everything you want. A rampant epidemic attitude in our society.

Unreliable Character You are unpredictable, and not trusted or confided in.

Eagerness to Please You are more of a pleaser than an honest communicator. But your displeasure with things builds up and explodes at times.

Morally Scrupulous You find fault with even small misbehavior. No one meets every one of your rules. Your best friend is yourself.

Making Destructive Comments Needless sarcasm and cutting remarks erode any rapport you may have built up. Your relationships never ‘run deeper’.”

I almost died. And so can you.

February 24, 2014

By  via   Article

“I’m 43 For years, I justified the drive-thru burgers and lack of exercise by saying, ‘I’m too busy to eat right.’ Or ‘there simply aren’t enough hours in the day to work out, too.’

Then I had a heart attack. Now I have a couple of stents in my right coronary artery, and a newfound sense of responsibility. … This is not a game; this is life or death.

1. Put Yourself First

The financial notion of “pay yourself first” dictates that you sock away retirement savings before spending on other things. The same principle applies to your health and well-being …

2. Review Your Metrics

You would never dream of running your business without clear success metrics that you review and monitor via regular reports. … Monitor your weight. Get your cholesterol checked — regularly. Know your other key metrics based on personal risk factors and track them regularly. …

3. Set Goals

Again, you would never run your business without clear goals. Taking care of your body requires the same discipline and measurement. Set goals that are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and time-bound. Yes, SMART goals. …

4. Put as much energy into running your body as you do your business

… If you’re not taking care of yourself, you’re letting down your team, your organization, and your family. Get started today.”


Sell now

February 24, 2014

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The Three Kinds of Investors Who Should Sell Their Stocks Now

“With the total United States stock market up nearly 200 percent from the 2009 lows and increasing worries about what some pundits are calling ‘bubblelike valuations,’ there are a few reasons you should think about selling now.

You got lucky. Did you buy an investment based on what you heard from your brother-in-law or a neighbor at a barbecue? Be honest! … You got lucky, and it’s time to take your money and run.

You don’t know why you own something. … Maybe you inherited a bond from a grandparent or bought stock in a company where a friend used to work. Whatever the reasons, you now have a smorgasbord instead of a portfolio. Chances are that smorgasbord has done well in the last year or two. That doesn’t make it a good portfolio…. Now would be a good time to look at selling and using the money to build a portfolio on purpose.

You’re a systematic market timer. … systematic market timing is the fancy way of saying you need to rebalance. … For instance, your portfolio design may call for 60 percent stocks and 40 percent bonds. But since stocks have done really well in the last year, your portfolio may now be 70 percent stocks, even with the recent decline. So, in that case, you should be selling stocks and buying bonds to get you back to your 60/40 split.”


Not an entrepreneur

February 24, 2014

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Why I’m not calling myself an entrepreneur (for now)

“Regardless of the country or industry you work in, the word entrepreneur isn’t very descriptive –it can be attributed to someone who built a crappy mobile app or someone who has built a Fortune 100 company – and is therefore not something you want to introduce yourself as at a cocktail party.

What’s really entrepreneurial?

So let’s lay down a few ground rules for activities that are and are not entrepreneurial:

Activities that are entrepreneurial include:

  • Building a profitable company from scratch
  • Taking your company public
  • Solving a problem with an innovative solution that affects millions of people
  • Repaying a business loan from your new business’s profits
  • Buying 550 acres of jungle and turning it into a sustainable village

Activities that are NOT entrepreneurial include:

  • Working in software
  • Working in media (unless you’ve started a media empire)
  • Borrowing money from your rich friends to start a company
  • Speaking at conferences
  • Hiring a mobile development company to build your app

… It is high time we give the word entrepreneur the respect it deserves …. It is a word that is earned.”

Rules, tools, and fools

February 24, 2014

By   and  via   Article

When Subtraction Adds More

“… although more roles and processes are needed as organizations and projects expand, skilled leaders wield their power to eliminate needless friction and complexity—not burden employees with ‘rules, tools, and fools’ that make it tougher to do their jobs and waste money and talent. …

The best organizations perform constant subtraction, not just addition and multiplication. The story also reinforces a basic insight about scaling: ‘Many hands make light the work’ is a dangerous half-truth. We’ve shown how adding people to an organization, a project, or a team creates costly side effects. As more people come aboard, members do (and should) devote more time and effort to communicate, coordinate, and maintain warm and trusting bonds. Despite such efforts, coordination and relationships are still prone to degenerate as more members join.”


February 24, 2014

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Want people to like you? Use mirroring

“Mirroring is the behavior in which someone copies another person, while in social interaction with them. … Pay attention to their subtle movements and copy it in an appropriate way. If you see someone smiling a lot in conversation, try smiling back to show him or her you are on the same page. Making a person feel comfortable is one of the key steps in developing a rapport with anyone Here are some cues to look for to use ‘mirroring’ effectively:

  • People with their arms crossed are generally less comfortable and more closed off.
  • Stiff posture shows rigidity and discomfort. …
  • … Looking away from someone means you are disinterested.  Looking directly into their eyes for an extended period of time is bad. Maintain steady eye contact and look away when appropriate.
  • Someone who leans forward is eager or attentive and is looking for something. This can be a useful relationship building tactic.
  • The position of people’s feet or knees shows where their minds are. If they are pointed towards the door or exit, they are looking to leave; however, if they are pointed at you, they are engaged.
  • Watch how quickly you’re talking. … Too fast is excitable and can potentially seem overbearing, so make sure to speak at a comfortable pace.

When someone is angry, you’ll want to control the tone and speed of the conversation by speaking slowly. It’ll help alleviate the tense situation.”

Choose how you respond

February 17, 2014

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The Human Search for Meaning

He who has a Why to live for
can bear almost any How.”
— Nietzsche

“Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl, is best known for his 1946 memoir Man’s Search for Meaning. The book sheds light on the horrible experiences of Auschwitz and what they taught him about life, love, and our search for meaning. When all seems hopeless, why is it that some people push forward while others subside.

I know some people who probably wouldn’t survive more than a day without their iPhone let alone having everything in their life that could possibly be taken ripped away. If Frankl’s experience is indicative, when this happens we eventually seek peace within ourselves. If only to retreat from the terrible surroundings. …

Frankl’s most enduring insight is that no matter what is taken from you, you have the freedom to choose how you respond to the situation.

We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing : the last of the human freedoms— to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.

There is always choices to make. These choices allowed Frankl and others to avoid becoming ‘the plaything of circumstance.'”